Forget everything you've ever thought about regret by Jamie Young

I recently got a couple of new tattoos. Tattoos tend to always bring up the discussion of permanence and regret. I've discussed these concepts with coworkers, friends, family and even complete strangers this month. 

This made me realize that every tattoo I've gotten has been a spur of the moment decision. I think the longest I took to think about a tattoo I have is two to three days. That's not very long. That was my first tattoo I got as an 18-year-old with my two best friends. I remember just sitting in a smoky diner in Detroit all weekend, plotting out what we could possibly get that would remind us of each other. 

It's strange because I'm the type of person who reads multiple reviews and Googles the shit out of every item before I buy it. I want to make sure I'm getting the best. I don't want to be disappointed. I don't want to regret my decision. And yet, with tattoos, I don't seem to have that same anxiety. 

So, I asked myself why.

It took something my friend said to really make me understand why; because I had no answer on my own at first. "Jamie, you're just comfortable with yourself. You know yourself so well that you know you can make a spur of the moment decision like this and be okay with it for the rest of your life." 

I'm comfortable with myself. It's like being a good judge of character. I'm a good judge of myself. Sure, that sounds easy because who knows you better than you, right? But is it, really? I don't think so. I think it's taken me a long time trust myself. 

But it's not just about being comfortable and trusting myself. It's about taking chances. It's about facing regret head on. 

We're trained to want to avoid regret. To be fearful of it. But regret isn't failure; regret shows where you've been and helps you move forward. Regret means possibilities. Regret means you're not afraid: Don't be afraid of regret. Embrace it. 

Now forget everything you've ever thought about regret and think about this instead: If you don't have any regrets, you haven't lived. You haven't made mistakes. You haven't taken adventures. You haven't jumped without looking and gotten that rush. You haven't put your anxiety aside and just taken a moment to breathe and be at peace. 

How can you truly live in the moment if you're constantly thinking "Will I regret this?"

I don't want to have #noregrets. I want to have regrets because I've taken chances. But I guess, in turn, that makes my regrets not so regrettable. Instead, I'm proud of my regrets. My regrets are like battle scars: showing where I've been, what I've done, chances I've taken, decisions I've made rashly, jumps I've taken without looking...and that's pretty fucking awesome.

So, live. Wear your regret like a medal of honor. Wear it proudly. After all, you deserve it. 

The Business of Busy-ness by Jamie Young

It's been a while since the blog has been up and active. I know it's cliche, but I've just been so busy. Even though I moved to LA over a year ago, it still feels like I just moved here and I'm still catching up and getting settled. 

In the past year and 4 months, a lot has changed. I changed jobs [again], which I never imagined happening so soon. I changed my schedule. I changed my habits. So, things have felt a little out of whack — good, but out of whack. 

I've been playing the hero behind the scenes for so long now (read: editor extraordinaire), that I forgot what it was like to write. I forgot what it was like to have a byline. 

But I've been given the opportunity to write some more again; and I hope I continue to get to write a lot more. Both for work and here. 

Let's be honest, "I'm too busy." is bullshit. We should all make time for the things we care about; if we care about them, we will make time for them, in fact. We need to overcome this "busy-ness" stigma. 

So, I'm just stopping in to say hi. I'm alive. Just busy. And I'm working on not using that as an excuse anymore. 

Change and moving on by Jamie Young

In case you missed the news: I'm moving to Los Angeles on Saturday (Nov. 1). It's where I've been wanting to be for a very long time, so although I'm sad to leave friends and family, I'm very excited for this huge leap forward. 

But there was one bit of news I left out initially: I am also leaving AppAdvice. I've accepted a position with Whisper in Venice Beach and start there next week. And I look forward to being a part of another great team.

I have already written to my coworkers and spoken to them at length about me leaving. The entire team at AppAdvice is like a family to me; I will forever care about them and their success. And I'll miss working them each day. But today, I also wrote to the AppAdvice readers because it only felt right. I didn't want to leave without a nod in their direction because I'll miss the community greatly too. 

I can't wait to finally get settled in at my new position, as well as my new place and new state. I hope that those of you that follow me and keep up with me because of apps and AppAdvice will continue to do so. Because that won't ever change; I'll never stop tweeting about apps and I'll never stop complaining about Yosemite or iOS 8 either. 

So, here's to change and the future—and also to the past, for without my past I wouldn't be where I am today. 

See you all around.

Hey, Facebook: Instagram's customer service blows by Jamie Young

A couple of weeks ago, my friend alerted me to the fact that someone on Instagram had stolen one of my photos and was pretending to be me by also using my profile photo. The same profile photo I use for everything online. It's part of my personality. You see that mustache mug and you know it's Jamie. 

Well, not anymore. 

So, I did some research and found the proper form to fill out online to report an impersonation account. I told them they had stolen one of my photos from Instagram and also my profile picture. I am certain it's a bot, so I told them that as well. But, well, my response was less than satisfactory (see below: bottom to top).

Um. Really? Did they even read my response?

I then sent another email in response: "Can you please answer my question? It is definitely intending to mislead. You just responded with the same Text Expander snippet you sent me last time and ignored my actual question."

That last email was sent August 21, and so far has been unanswered. And the account is still up on Instagram. 

What worries me most, is that Facebook/Instagram is not concerned about removing bots whatsoever. In fact, it seems they have bots doing their customer service work for them too. Is the person who is using my photos trying to be me to hurt to me? No. But they are definitely scamming and misleading and could hurt other people. And they are certainly impersonating my likeness via their profile picture.

That's me. Those are my photos. And that account is a bot. 

I just want a response, Instagram.